Love has no specific definition as it can be felt in so many different ways. You define it how you feel it but some people say there are three kinds of love we all wish for or go through in life.
These are; first love, which is usually called puppy love, great love, which would sweep you off your feet and true love, which may not be as magical as first love nor as thrilling as great love, yet, the matured one that makes your heart beat in a kindI of way.
Most people want true love as It is unconditional, reassuring and secure. It may not be perfect, but it completes the person who has it. Finding THE ONE may however be difficult but below are six steps to find your true love.
1. Prepare to meet the one
There are many ways to be prepared, it involves physical, mental and spiritual. By reaching your highest potentials.
You want to end up with the best person, right? Well, ‘best’ is relative, since different people have different concepts of ‘best’. What you need to find is the person who can be best for you.
It may be unfair if you expect your true love to be the best for you and you do not make any effort to be the best for him/her.
Therefore, strive to be the best version of yourself. Reach for your dreams and work to improve your weaknesses. This way, it will be easier for you and a prospect partner to determine whether you are perfect for each other or not.
2. Make yourself attractive.
This key, you have to LOOK prepared. Before you can feel romantic love for a person, you get attracted first. Therefore, making yourself presentable can make it easier for your true love to find you.
First, you have to look and smell clean. Next, accentuate your assets or the best parts of your body or face. Then, be creative in improving or at least accepting your flaws (in contrast to hiding them).
3. Find out what you really want in a partner.
Creating a list of the traits that you want your true love to possess will help you assess what kind of partner would suit you. Just bear in mind that there is big chance you cannot find them all in one person because no one is perfect.
The good thing about setting standards is it helps you gather the lessons you have learned from dealing with past partners. You recall the traits that do not complement well with yours, which eventually led to broken relationships. If you have never been in a relationship yet, use your experiences in dealing with family and friends of the opposite sex for this.
4. Be with the right company (Positioning)
Being at the right place and with the right kind of people will help you meet the right person for you. For this reason, be wise in choosing your circle of friends. Their environment determines the kind of person that surround them.
For instance, if you do not like the party kind of partner, then avoid hanging out a lot with party going friends. Friends of the same feather flock together, remember.
5. Stop basing your standards on movies or novels. (Be realistic)
Sorry to burst your bubble, but true love in real life is not as overwhelming as when a rich guy falls in love with a poor girl in movies or novels.
Real persons in the real world are less grand than main characters in fiction. Therefore, you should stop setting standards that are too good to be true.
6. Do not let your emotions cloud your decisions.
Like what I mentioned in the previous tip, you cannot think straight when you are in love. Remember, true love is beyond feelings. Do not immediately decide to accept a person into your life, no, never be desperate. Remember, you rush in, you rush out.
Take your time, you have to base your decision on many factors. You can refer to the previous tips, and see if the person fits the true love criteria.
Finding the true love is not magical or rocket science. Just follow these steps and you will have less headache over finding the true love.