Singer, Timi Dakolo has opened up about the challenges he faced before and after his wife openly called out popular COZA pastor over rape.
In a recent interview with media personality, Betty Irabor, he opened about dealing with the aftermath after his wife, Busola Dakolo came out to accuse a popular pastor of rape back in 2019.
According to him, it is probably one of the most difficult things he has ever encountered as a man and as a person.”
It’s probably one of the most difficult things I’ve ever encountered as a man and as a person” Timi said.
He explained that we all have things “unsaid” that “break us up and crack our soul” and he wanted his wife to be free from hers. “I just wanted her to be free.” “I want to say my truth.”
He added: “I said are you sure, she said ‘yes’, I said ‘I got you. I got you when you don’t get yourself’.”
He said they sat down and discussed all the things that could play out when she comes out with her story after which he told her, “but don’t worry, I will be here.”
He further explained how he reached a decision to keep her sane by preventing her from checking out certain toxic comments on her phone.
Speaking of the first moment she opened up to him, he said he knew something was wrong based on the switch in her attitude that showed different sides of her.
He said she’ll sometimes break down in tears but was reluctant to open up to him.
“When she eventually did say, I now said to her, ‘now I get it’. I didn’t used to get the switch.”
He said his love for his daughters enabled him to understand his wife’s plight as a young girl and he was able to stand in as a father for her and treat her the way he would want his daughters to be treated.
“I became a father [to Busola]. Before a husband, I became a father. Like, if my daughter tells me this kind of thing, what’s my first reaction? I didn’t know what to do so I called a lot of people.”
He said that as a man, he couldn’t get it completely so he called some older women he respects for advice.
He explained that at the time, his wife Busola was already seeing a psychologist and there was a little improvement.
He said that when he noticed his wife’s situation affecting the children and their family bond during that period, he would step in and suggest a fun activity to bring the family closer.
He said in spite of the backlash, he doesn’t regret his wife’s decision to come out with her story.
The positives from the situation, he said, are the women who send his wife DMs saying her bravery saved them.
Moving away from the rape incident, Timi praised his wife as he narrated how having to single-handedly care for their kids for one month while Busola was away for a course made him realize that “women are really underrated.